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Top 10 Things Men Should Know About Dating

The Top Ten

10. Be decisive:

• "We appreciate your including us in the decisions about dinner and activities, but if we say "It doesn't matter to me, I have a fall back plan. It's nice when you take the lead."

• "Don't be afraid to make a choice.this conversation won't fly:
  Him: Where do you want to go for dinner.
  Her: Well, I’m not sure….how about   Italian.
  Him: Ok, where do you want to go?
  Her: Well, I chose Italian, you pick the place.
  Him: But where do you want to go?
  Her: I chose Italian, you pick the place.
  Him: Well, forget it… let’s just stay in.”

9. Know thy date

• "Don't date people you don't know much about."

• "Pursue a woman with the purpose of getting to know her character, and upon confirmation that she is godly, then you pursue the next step."

• "A date is a friend before they're a date. If you find someone interesting, spend time getting to know them, see what you have in common, don't push it, let it happen. Don't 'date' a stranger, but give time for the stranger to become a friend.

8. Don’t say stupid things

• "Don't talk about yourself the whole time, ask her about her."

• "Don't talk about how beautiful any other woman is."

• Never ask her questions like her measurements, her weight, how much she makes, or other sensitive topics.” (Some things are better left unsaid.)

7. Don’t be afraid to be chivalrous

• Open doors. Walk on sidewalks closest to the street. Pump the gas in her car if she’s driving. Go up and down stairs the right way.” (We looked into this, and apparently men should walk up stairs behind her in case she falls and down stairs in front of her for the same reason… This was news to us, and may not be recognized as chivalrous…)

• "Using the long-distance remote to unlock the car door is NOT opening the door for a girl."

• "Flowers, chocolate, jewelry, opening doors and paying for dates is the way to my heart =)!"

• "We like to be treated like ladies - even if we tell you that we want to be treated as equals."

• "You don't have to bring flowers and candy on the first date, it may scare women away." (A good rule of thumb, #9 Know Thy Date. If she's the type who would appreciate flowers, go for it. If it would scare her away at first, save it for a later date.)

6. Mind the signals

• "When a gal says, 'No thank you'..believe her. and leave her alone."

• "If a woman hasn't returned your call after you left 3 messages, more than likely she doesn't want to talk to you, and will never call you back. Please respect that." (We recognize that, ideally, we women need to be proactive in telling you that we aren't interested. But not everyone will do that, so in those cases this is a good rule.)

5. Don’t blur the lines between friend and date

• "If you want to impress a girl, never call her dude or buddy."

• "If you ask her out to dinner, pay for her, drive, etc., please know that the message you're sending is that this is a date. Don't be surprised later if she assumes it was. She has no other way to interpret it if you haven't been clear about your intentions.

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